October 22, 2011
This was a very full day.
I woke up at 8 a.m. The guys were still sleeping, so I wrote my blog and figured out what I was doing for the day. I was a little irritated because my friends and I had made plans to get up early and ride around the city. Obviously they had stayed up too late and it was almost noon before they woke up.
I figured since it was too late to do what we had planned, I would just relax for the day. I could use a day of not biking. I made “Joe” some fried potatoes and I broke open a watermelon for myself. Joe took his food outside to sit in the sun. I thought that was the best idea ever. It was a beautiful warm day and the sun felt amazing. The neighbor kids were riding their bicycles around. Joe was talking to them and he was asking one girl why she wasn’t riding her bike. She said she had a flat tire, so Joe told her to bring it over and we would fix it. That started a whole wave of neighbor kids bringing their bikes over and we fixed their tires. One tire had a bad stem and I told the girl she needed a new tube. She seemed very sad about that and was saying she needed to figure out how to make some money. I live in a very poor neighborhood and she knew that her mom had no money to buy a bike tube. I decided I would buy a good quality bike tube for her the next time I went to the store.
After all the bikes were fixed, I made 64oz. of oj/mango/lettuce smoothie and drank it up. Then myself and the guys all loaded up in the car to run some errands. First we stopped at “Fred Meyers” got gas and bought bike tubes, food for Joe, 11 lbs. of organic apples and a bunch of almost ripe organic banana’s.
Next we went to my sisters house. She was watching football with her husband. We watched the game for a little while, it was fun cheering and yelling at the TV about the game just for the fun of it. Joe being the social butterfly that he is, was talking to my sister and her husband about all kinds of thing. I usually don’t go over to my sisters that much. I don’t like the energy over there…it’s very materialistic. Also, 14 years ago her husband beat me up and my sister stood up for him and we didn’t talk or see each other for 10 years because of that. We started talking again 4 years ago, worked things out and her husband apologized. Regardless I still feel very much on guard when I am around him.
When the game was at half time I was getting a bad feeling and said it was time to go. I was standing in the doorway to living room when I said that, I didn’t realized that my sisters husband was standing behind me and literally seconds after I spoke he slapped me on the ass very hard. I wanted to freak out. I was so furious that he hit me..once again. Anthony saw it happen, but Joe didn’t. I told my sister goodbye and we left. In the car I told Joe what had happened. He was really upset and told me I should have said something and he would have stood up for me. I told him that I didn’t want there to be a big huge fight. I just wanted to get out of there and be on my way…back to my peaceful happy world.
I was feeling so upset. I wanted to go out in the desert and just scream and thrash around. We stopped at a store and bought food for my rabbits. I was trying to keep it together in the store. I was freaking out in my head. How dare he touch me! We made it back to the car and drove to the fruit stand and bought 3 watermelon.
Back in the car both Joe and Anthony were talking to me. Anthony telling me it was ok to cry and feel what I was feeling. Joe telling me what to do about the situation. It was so overwhelming. I was sobbing by then and trying to drive. I just started yelling and screamed “FUUUCCCCKKK” and was flailing around. It was so incredibly intense. Then I just started laughing and laughing. I said I was sorry for freaking out, but man I felt so much better. They both understood and were glad I had released all that.
I was back to being my happy self again. We went to a church I clean and the guys helped me clean it really quick. Then we went to the co-op and picked up a case of banana’s. We were stocked up on food and all the errands were done. We decided to go to second hand stores and goof around. That was a lot of fun. I bought 3 pair of jeans..now I have 6 pair of pants to last me through the winter. Yay! At the second hand store I ate 2 apples and introduced myself to the cashier. Her name is Carrie.
I had been thinking through out the day on how to address the situation with my brother in law. I am so glad I read a book called “Emotional Intelligence” a couple of years ago. It has helped me so much in handling situations in a non violent, peaceful way. When we got back to the house Joe asked me what I was going to do about my brother in-law. I told him I had already decided and to listen to this. I called up my sister and asked to talk to her husband. I said to him “Today when I was over there and you smacked me on the ass”. He said “yes”. I said, “I don’t know if you knew this, but I don’t like to be smacked on the ass and I thought I should let you know that”. He said, “ok”. I said, “so it would be great to know that from now on, when I come over to your house, I can enjoy myself without being smacked on the ass”. He said, ” no problem”. Ha! Problem solved! Now I am trusting that he will honor his word. When I hung up the phone Joe grabbed me in a huge hug and told that I was brilliant….lol. Yes!! Then he went and told Anthony how brilliantly I had handled the situation. Yay! I was so happy I had figured out how to do that..happy dance time!
The rest of the evening was great. There was supposed to be a family conference call with my Uncle about my cousin’s death, but that had gotten canceled. The guys and I watched “Trailer Park Boys” and I ate a lb. of lettuce with tahini lemon dressing. Then I showered, went to bed and read for a while. I am reading “The Pleasure Trap”. I highly recommend it!
Joe came in later and we talked about all kinds of things for a couple of hours. Just laughing and enjoying each others company. He was telling me about growing up and his family, I really enjoying learning more about how he grew up and how he became the person that he is today. We went to sleep around 1:30 a.m.